At the end of last year, I lost my engagement ring and wedding band. I was already having a pretty rubbish year and this certainly didn’t help.
Of course I was upset but over the years I’ve had a lot of practice at emotionally letting go of things that are out of my control. This was definitely one of those times!
If you’ve been reading this blog for a while you’ll know that several years earlier I lost a lot.
Relationships, friends, my job, part of my vision and brain function, my leg, toes and fingertips, my ability to walk and drive.… the list goes on (you can read the full story here).
My point is that after losing all of that you really can’t help but become less attached to ‘stuff’.
But this wasn’t just any ol’ stuff. This stuff meant more to me than any of the other stuff I owned.
This was the engagement ring that my husband slipped on my finger when he proposed and it meant the world to me.
I would have traded my entire wardrobe, my television and every piece of furniture in my apartment to have those rings back.
But now they were gone forever.
They’d slipped from my finger and I never felt them go.
I haven’t had normal sensation in my fingertips since nine of them were amputated about thirteen years go.
Fortunately, my rings were covered by insurance so for the first time (and hopefully the last) I put in a claim.
It was an incredibly slow process with unnecessary phone calls and paperwork.
But in the end – yippee!
Obviously, it wouldn’t bring back my original rings but I could replace them with exact replicas (above). It was definitely better than nothing.
On the day I picked up my new rings from the jewellers I surprised even myself at how insanely happy I was.
WTF?! Where the hell had Lisa gone?
For a long time I’ve been writing and speaking about the fact that you don’t need material stuff to be happy.
So I put together a list of all the little things that make me happy – stuff that lights up my world and doesn’t cost thousands of dollars. Because sometimes (if not all the time) it’s the little things!
Perfect happiness is a beautiful sunset, the giggle of a grandchild, the first snowfall. It’s the little things that make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in sips, not gulps.”
– Sharon Draper
11 little things that make me happy…
- The smell of my apartment when it has just been cleaned. Ah yes, the satisfying smell of a clean home. Unfortunately it never lasts that long – but that’s probably a good thing #toxicfumes
- Thinking it’s Thursday then realising it’s Friday – surprise the weekend is one day closer!
- That glorious feeling of climbing into a bed made with freshly cleaned sheets.
- Finding a $5 note (or some other denomination) at the bottom of you handbag or pocket. This doesn’t happen much anymore since I use my card for everything and stopped using cash.
- A free disabled park in the middle of an overcrowded shopping centre – There are some perks to having a disability 😉
- Hearing my niece and nephews say, “Aunty Lisa” for the first time – although it’s more like, “Undie Leeeeza!”
- Air-conditioning! Heat turns me into a miserable bitch and for a few months of the year, my hometown is a sauna so I tend to hibernate in air-conditioned venues.
- Having the gym to myself or almost to myself. I’ve been going to the same gym for years and as much as I try to practice patience, waiting for gym equipment to become free drives me nuts… Plus it’s air-conditioned.
- That feeling when I realise my coffee loyalty card is finally full of stamps and my next coffee is free.
- Coffee with Mum. My beautiful Mum has done so much for me since my disabilities and it’s just really great to spend time with her as my Mum and not as my accountant, bookkeeper and office administrator!
- That feeling when you think your coffee’s finished but you tip your cup up and find you’re still going.
What’s something really small that makes you happy? It can be tiny and insignificant to everyone else (just like some of my examples) but if they mean something to you then that’s all that matters.