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					<description><![CDATA[&#160; &#8220;True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities without bravado, there are certain things they simply don’t do.&#8221; &#8211; Travis Bradberry &#160; Confidence can be one of the bigger challenges in life but it&#8217;s also something you often have control over. Your thoughts and actions are&#8230; <a class="continue" href="https://lisacox.co/critical-things-confident-people-wont-do/">Continue Reading<span> Critical Things Confident People Won&#8217;t Do</span></a>]]></description>
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<p>&#8220;<em>True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities without bravado, there are certain things they simply don’t do</em>.&#8221; &#8211; Travis Bradberry</p>
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<p>Confidence can be one of the bigger challenges in life but it&#8217;s also something you often have control over. Your thoughts and actions are generally up to you, even if other things aren&#8217;t &#8211; like people or circumstances.</p>
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<p>In the past I&#8217;ve had that bad boss, toxic partner and unsupportive friend so I can kinda understand how completely rubbish it leaves you feeling. On more than one occasion I&#8217;ve had to climb out of that self-esteem sink hole and reset my coordinates for confidence.</p>
<p>Have you been there too?</p>
<p>If you have then you&#8217;ll know that it requires commitment and perseverance to ride the wave when your confidence takes a tumble. There&#8217;s lots of things you <em>can</em> do (and I&#8217;ve written about some of them <a href="https://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-cox/top-5-ways-to-build-your-_b_10112570.html">here</a> for The Huffington Post) but there are also a number of things you shouldn&#8217;t do.</p>
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<p>I stumbled across this excellent article by Dr Travis Bradberry about some of the things confident people won&#8217;t do.</p>
<p>Travis really knows what he&#8217;s talking about and sites some really interesting research too. You can read his full bio below but he&#8217;s somewhat of a pro when it comes to the science and strategies around confidence and emotional intelligence.</p>
<p>This piece has been republished with full permission from Travis and the team at ThinkSmart.</p>
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<h2>Critical Things Confident People Won&#8217;t Do</h2>
<p>In <em>The Empire Strikes Back</em>, when Yoda is training Luke to be a Jedi, he demonstrates the power of the Force by raising an X-wing fighter from a swamp. Luke mutters, “I don’t believe it.” Yoda replies, “That is why you fail.”</p>
<p>As usual, Yoda was right—and science backs him up. Numerous studies have proved that confidence is the real key to success.</p>
<p>Studies exploring the performance gap between men and women in math and spatial skills have found that confidence plays a huge role. Women who were asked to identify their gender before taking a spatial skills test performed more poorly than those who weren’t. Women also performed better when they were told to envision themselves as men, and both genders performed better when they were told that their gender is better at the task.</p>
<p>What’s even more interesting is that the gender gap practically disappeared when participants were required to answer every question. Apparently, when the women were allowed to skip questions, they did so not because of a lack of knowledge, but because of a lack of confidence.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;If you hear a voice within you say &#8216;you cannot paint,&#8217; then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.&#8221; — <em>Vincent Van Gogh</em></p></blockquote>
<p>True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities without bravado, there are certain things they simply don’t do.</p>
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<li><strong>They don’t make excuses. </strong>If there’s one trait confident people have in spades, it’s self-efficacy—the belief that they can make things happen. It’s about having an internal locus of control rather than an external one. That’s why you won’t hear confident people blaming traffic for making them late or an unfair boss for their failure to get a promotion. Confident people don’t make excuses, because they believe they’re in control of their own lives.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t quit. </strong>Confident people don’t give up the first time something goes wrong. They see both problems and failures as obstacles to overcome rather than impenetrable barriers to success. That doesn’t mean, however, that they keep trying the same thing over and over. One of the first things confident people do when something goes wrong is to figure out why it went wrong and how they can prevent it the next time.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t wait for permission to act. </strong>Confident people don’t need somebody to tell them what to do or when to do it. They don’t waste time asking themselves questions like “Can I?” or “Should I?” If they ask themselves anything, it’s “Why <em>wouldn’t</em>I?”<strong> </strong>Whether it’s running a meeting when the chairperson doesn’t show up or going the extra mile to solve a customer’s problem, it doesn’t even occur to them to wait for somebody else to take care of it. They see what needs to be done, and they do it.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t seek attention. </strong>People are turned off by those who are desperate for attention. Confident people know that being yourself is much more effective than trying to prove that you’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than what, or how many, people you know. Confident people always seem to bring the right attitude. Confident people are masters of attention diffusion. When they’re receiving attention for an accomplishment, they quickly shift the focus to all the people who worked hard to help get them there. They don’t crave approval or praise because they draw their self-worth from within.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t need constant praise. </strong>Have you ever been around somebody who constantly needs to hear how great he or she is? Confident people don’t do that. It goes back to that internal locus of control. They don’t think that their success is dependent on other people’s approval, and they understand that no matter how well they perform, there’s always going to be somebody out there offering nothing but criticism. Confident people also know that the kind of confidence that’s dependent on praise from other people isn’t really confidence at all; it’s narcissism.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t put things off. </strong>Why do people procrastinate? Sometimes it’s simply because they’re lazy. A lot of times, though, it’s because they’re afraid—that is, afraid of change, failure, or maybe even success. Confident people don’t put things off. Because they believe in themselves and expect that their actions will lead them closer to their goals, they don’t sit around waiting for the right time or the perfect circumstances. They know that today is the only time that matters. If they think it’s not the right time, they make it the right time.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t pass judgement. </strong>Confident people don’t pass judgment on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don’t need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves. Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Confident people don’t waste time sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up to everyone they meet.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t avoid conflict. </strong>Confident people don’t see conflict as something to be avoided at all costs; they see it as something to manage effectively. They don’t go along to get along, even when that means having uncomfortable conversations or making unpleasant decisions. They know that conflict is part of life and that they can’t avoid it without cheating themselves out of the good stuff, too.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t let a lack of resources get in their way. </strong>Confident people don’t get thrown off course just because they don’t have the right title, the right staff, or the money to make things happen. Either they find a way to get what they need, or they figure out how to get by without it.</li>
<li><strong>They don’t get too comfortable. </strong>Confident people understand that getting too comfortable is the mortal enemy of achieving their goals. That’s because they know that comfort leads to complacency, and complacency leads to stagnation. When they start feeling comfortable, they take that as a big red flag and start pushing their boundaries again so that they can continue to grow as both a person and a professional. They understand that a little discomfort is a good thing.</li>
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<h2><strong>Bringing It All Together</strong></h2>
<p>Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success, which, in turn, will lead to more confidence. The science is clear; now you just have to decide to act on it.</p>
<p><em>Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.</em></p>
<h2><strong>ABOUT THE AUTHOR:</strong></h2>
<p>Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, <a href="https://www.talentsmart.com/products/emotional-intelligence-2.0/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><em>Emotional Intelligence 2.0</em></a><em>,</em> and the cofounder of <a href="https://www.talentsmart.com/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">TalentSmart</a>, the world&#8217;s leading provider of <a href="https://www.talentsmart.com/products/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">emotional intelligence tests</a> and <a href="https://www.talentsmart.com/services/train-the-trainer-certification.php" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">training</a>, serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. His bestselling books have been translated into 25 languages and are available in more than 150 countries. Dr. Bradberry has written for, or been covered by, <em>Newsweek, BusinessWeek, Fortune, Forbes, Fast Company, Inc., USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post</em>, and <em>The Harvard Business Review</em>.</p>
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<p>Dr. Bradberry is a world-renowned expert in emotional intelligence who speaks regularly in corporate and public settings. Example engagements include Intel, Coca-Cola, Microsoft, Wells Fargo, Boston Scientific, NY Life, Fortune Brands, Salesforce.com, Fortune Magazine Growth Summit, The Conference Board: Learning from Legends, and Excellence in Government.</p>
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<p>If you&#8217;d like to learn how to increase your emotional intelligence (EQ), consider taking the online <em>Emotional Intelligence Appraisal</em> test that&#8217;s included with the <a href="https://www.talentsmart.com/products/emotional-intelligence-2.0/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><em>Emotional Intelligence 2.0</em></a> book. Your test results will pinpoint which of the book&#8217;s 66 emotional intelligence strategies will increase your EQ the most.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[Before you clicked on this article, were you scrolling through your Facebook news feed? Or perhaps you were watching those crazy cats on Youtube? Better still, did you spend an hour Googling ideas about how to make dinner – quickly? Seems a bit counterproductive doesn’t it. Before I wrote this piece, I absolutely HAD to&#8230; <a class="continue" href="https://lisacox.co/stop-procrastinating-now/">Continue Reading<span> How &#038; Why To Stop Procrastinating NOW!</span></a>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">Before you clicked on this article, were you scrolling through your Facebook news feed? Or perhaps you were watching those crazy cats on Youtube? Better still, did you spend an hour Googling ideas about how to make dinner – </span><em style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">quickly</em><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">? Seems a bit counterproductive doesn’t it.</span></h1>
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<p>Before I wrote this piece, I absolutely HAD to do the laundry.  But not just the laundry. It was also essential that I wash my hair, did some dishes and emptied the fridge of mouldy leftovers before I turned on my computer, watched a cute cat video on Youtube and (finally!) got to writing.</p>
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<p>Procrastination can really mess up your day and it’s like kryptonite for creativity. We can all do it from time to time but, like any bad habit, stopping it is the really hard part.</p>
<p>Procrastination can affect more areas of your life than you might think. Here are just four:</p>
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<li><strong>Friendship</strong>: Are you always the one who’s running late? Sure your friends joke about it now but after a while you might find the social invites start to dry up. It’s also time to make that long overdue catch-up for coffee (I’m guilty of this!).Procrastination destroys time management and potentially your friendships.</li>
<li><strong>Career</strong>: Filling out that job application or meeting that deadline might fall into the too-hard-basket for now but it could cost you that dream job or a payrise – see the next financial point!</li>
<li><strong>Financial</strong>: Paying bills late (and paying interest), buying gifts last minute (and paying more) or getting a taxi (instead of public transport, because you’re running late) are all little expenses that add up.</li>
<li><strong>Health</strong>: This could be one of the most serious consequences of procrastination. Not making an appointment with the Doctor about that strange lump? Prioritising a Google search over some gym time? I’ve been guilty of the latter!</li>
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<p>On the flip side, however, procrastination can (very occasionally) work to your advantage. Like yesterday when I simply <em>had </em>to go to the gym before I put that presentation together. With a clearer mind for a more productive work day, my health and my clients all won!</p>
<p>Generally though, procrastination just leaves you feeling flat and unfulfilled.  I know because I’ve been doing it for years.</p>
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<p>I remember back in my school and university days when I still lived with my parents. My bedroom was never cleaner than at exam time. This habit followed me into the corporate workplace but instead of cleaning my bedroom, I’d ensure my email inbox was perfectly up to date and my collection of Post-It Notes was colour coordinated.</p>
<p>Now that my business operates (mostly) from a home office, distractions like the laundry have been known to take precedence over client deadlines (just don’t tell my clients that!).</p>
<p>Unfortunately, despite all the great technological advancements that have been made in this world, those brilliant men and women still haven’t discovered a way to make my work write itself!</p>
<p>Procrastination is like superglue for productivity. You get stuck doing &lt;insert unimportant task here&gt; and your day goes nowhere. Sure you might get to watch that cat video or get that hair out of the shower drain (WIN!) but you’ll also never get that promotion (LOSE!).</p>
<p>Being fully aware that I procrastinate has meant that, over the years, I’ve paid particular attention to anything or anyone with suggestions on how not to procrastinate.  Basically, there is a lot of conflicting information so you have to find what works best for you. Here are some ideas that you might find useful:</p>
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<li><strong>Write a list</strong></li>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px;">You might already write a To-Do list but the next step is to prioritise the tasks on that list. From there, you might want to apply some of the next 4 steps to keep you going.</p>
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<li><strong>Remove distractions</strong></li>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Distractions could be anything from social media to chatty colleagues. The first step is to be aware they exist then put strategies in place to avoid them. On occasion, I’ve taken my laptop to work from a café with no Wi-fi and put my phone on Flight-mode so that I can’t be distracted.</p>
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<li><strong>Do small tasks first</strong></li>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Yes and No. It all depends on what the simple task is. Does it relate to the priorities on your To-Do list? Alphabetising your bookshelf is simple enough but it’s not going to help you get to the gym.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">By breaking important tasks down, they’re not so daunting and don’t feel as overwhelming – which we know can lead to more procrastination.</p>
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<li><strong>Publicise your intentions</strong></li>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px;">I’m a big fan of accountability and its capacity to kill-off procrastination. In the past, I’ve even updated my Facebook status with intentions, to avoid procrastination. There’s nothing like the threat of a mass virtual butt-kicking to get me working.</p>
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<li><strong>Start small</strong></li>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px;">This is by far my favorite tip for pulverising  procrastination and it’s very different to the first point about starting small tasks first.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Here, the focus is on doing something, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. “Just Do It” is how Nike would put it. “Just Start It” is how I would put it.</p>
<p><strong>It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be started.</strong> Or as <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/">Elizabeth Gilbert</a></span> put it, ‘Done is better than good.’</p>
<p>There’s also some interesting science to this concept that I think you’ll be interested in. The Zeigarnik effect was first conceived by Soviet psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik in the 1920s. It’s a productivity boosting concept that highlights the importance of just starting, even if it’s a small start.</p>
<p>Zeigarnik conducted a series of studies and showed that the brain actually prioritises incomplete tasks over completed tasks (you can read more about it <a href="https://www.psychwiki.com/wiki/Zeigarnik_Effect">here</a>).</p>
<p>So if you just start small, at least your brain will be more likely to remember the task and keep that momentum going until you complete it.</p>
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<p>If your procrastination was around writing a report at work (for example). Start small. Open a new word document and save it to your desktop so it’s there for later (unless you want to write the whole thing now – that’s ok too!). It’s a very small but it’s a start.</p>
<p>Or perhaps your procrastination isn’t so much around work but related to your fitness? Again the principles are the same. Start small. Start something, anything – just start.</p>
<p>You might not enter a marathon tomorrow but you can at least walk to the end of the street and back or even just do a few stretches in the living room and work up from there. It’s not huge but it is something.</p>
<p>Ok, it’s time you stopped procrastinating and reading articles online. Get back to work!</p>
<p>Love life,</p>
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<p>P.S. Do you have a good way to stop procrastinating? We’d love to know about it so share below!</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[&#160;   Can you lead a fearless lifestyle and still be fearful from time to time? Absolutely! That’s doesn’t mean you’re contradicting yourself, it means you’re human. I advocate for a fearless lifestyle through my work but that doesn&#8217;t mean I&#8217;m never fearful. Let me put it like this. Heavily airbrushed images give the illusion&#8230; <a class="continue" href="https://lisacox.co/truly-fearless/">Continue Reading<span> Having Fears And Being Fearless</span></a>]]></description>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>Can you lead a fearless lifestyle and still be fearful from time to time? Absolutely! That’s doesn’t mean you’re contradicting yourself, it means you’re human.</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">I advocate for a fearless lifestyle through my work but that doesn&#8217;t mean I&#8217;m never fearful.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Let me put it like this. Heavily airbrushed images give the illusion of perfection, not reality. So I don’t want to ‘Photoshop my words’ and misrepresent what fearless living actually means to me.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><a href="https://lisacox.co/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/1389335_398518440346539_1594490191_n.jpg"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-213 size-large" src="https://lisacox.co/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/1389335_398518440346539_1594490191_n-1024x1024.jpg" alt="1389335_398518440346539_1594490191_n" width="640" height="640" /></a></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>Above: One of my <a href="https://www.facebook.com/lisacoxwriter/">Facebook</a> photos. Can’t wait for lunch!</em></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">As someone who publicly speaks and writes about the word ‘fearless’ so much (and have had the word used to describe me), I thought I’d dig a bit deeper into the idea of being authentically, truly fearless.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>My Fearless Lifestyle </strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">On a recent trip to America, I metaphorically leapt over challenges and fears. I wheeled my laptop around New York, setting up an office (my laptop) in cafes and on park benches. I wrote a lot about the fearless lifestyle and how we can achieve it.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Then on the second last day I found myself in a hospital emergency room. It’s a long story but (for the sake of keeping this brief) all you need to know is that firstly, I’m ok now and secondly, I was absolutely terrified at the time.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><a href="https://lisacox.co/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/20150914_141124.jpg"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignnone wp-image-211 " src="https://lisacox.co/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/20150914_141124-e1449723267299-768x1024.jpg" alt="20150914_141124" width="332" height="442" /></a><a href="https://lisacox.co/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/20150920_211718-1-1-1-1-1.jpg"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignnone wp-image-212 " src="https://lisacox.co/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/20150920_211718-1-1-1-1-1-940x1024.jpg" alt="20150920_211718-1-1-1-1-1" width="407" height="443" /></a></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><em>Above: From fearless (in a helicopter over New York) to fearful (in a US hospital bed).</em></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Hospitals are never fun (and I’ve been in a lot!) but hospitals in a foreign country are extra distressing. Tears and snot ran down my face and I was definitely not pursuing a fearless lifestyle, at that time.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">On my return to Australia, an ambulance picked me up from the airport and I began to contemplate what had unfolded over the last couple of days.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">One minute I had been writing about fearless living and the next I was a fearful mess. Did this make me a fraud? Was I telling lies and writing fearless fiction?</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Not at all. I’m not contradicting myself – promoting fearless living and admitting that I have fears. I’m just being honest with you.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>The great oxymoron: Fearless Living </strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">At first glance it would appear that fearless living is an oxymoron. Life is naturally full of challenges that instil fearfulness, rather than fearlessness in all of us.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">So what does fearless living actually mean?</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">One of the easiest ways to define fearless living may be to start with what it is NOT. Fearless living is not living without fear.</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><strong>The word itself is fear-less rather than fear-never.</strong></h2>
<p style="text-align: justify;">I want you to know that you can achieve a fearless lifestyle and still have occasional moments of doubt, insecurity and fear.  That’s not a cop-out, that’s being authentically fearless.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>What other fearless females have to say</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">In her article about fearlessness, <a href="https://tinybuddha.com/blog/6-crucial-lessons-to-help-you-live-fearless-and-free/">Terri Cole</a>, a licenced Psychotherapist says, “Fear is a feeling, not a fact” and I couldn’t agree more.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">On the odd chance that you are being chased by a large swarm of killer bees, this might not apply. But most often, our fears stem from a BS story that we tell ourselves (example, what will people think of me?), rather than fact.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>In reality, people aren’t thinking about you! They have their own interests and insecurities to occupy their time.  </strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><a href="https://liveboldandbloom.com/05/productivity/how-to-be-fearless-in-everything">Barrie Davenport</a> lists letting of what other people think about you as a key component of living without fear.  She writes:</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><em>“You will never please everyone, and it is rarely worth sacrificing yourself to accommodate some other person’s beliefs about who you should be or what you should do.”</em></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>It’s time to roar!</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">I want you to know that it’s normal for a fearless Lioness, like you, to have moments of fear and self-doubt. That doesn’t make you a fearless failure, it makes you real!</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">My world is not perfect and I don’t have it all together. Nobody does, no matter how ‘together’ their social media feed may look.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>I want you to be authentically fearless. Unleash the Lioness, roar with confidence and live an extraordinary life on your terms!</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Fearless living will include moments of self-doubt, insecurity and fear for all of us. That’s not being pessimistic, it’s being realistic. The trick is for those moments to be fleeting, not ingrained in your life.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><em>How? </em></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Well, I’m so glad you asked!</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">For more on fearless living tips, download your FREE eBook &#8211; <strong><a href="https://lisacox.co/">Find Your Fearless – Simple Steps To A Fearless Future</a>.</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Here’s to being true, fearless and truly fearless!</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Love life,</p>
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